Relationship Depression Don’t Let It Destroy Your Relationship

The Downside of Love

Relationship depression can be caused by the end of a relationship or the continuation of a bad relationship. Either way it’s very tough to get over it and move on to a brighter future. Tough, but not impossible.

The first thing to do will depend on which is the cause: a bad breakup or a bad relationship. If it’s a breakup you will have to find a way to move on. You should be prepared to spend quite a bit of time on the healing process. Rely on friends and family as well as any activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself. Now is not the time to be self destructive or wallow in your pain.

If you simply can’t seem to shake yourself out of your funk after several weeks or months, you may need professional help. If that’s the case don’t wait. There is nothing wrong with trying to work through your problems with an objective, professional, third party. You want to feel better as soon as you can so you should be willing to take all the help you can get.

If your depression is caused by the continuation of a bad relationship a lot of the same steps will apply. First you will have to make the hard, brutally honest decision as to whether or not the relationship is really worth saving.

For many, this is the hardest step because, more often than not, the honest answer would be no. Very simply it’s not worth saving, but most people will bend over backwards to convince themselves and everyone around them; that it is worth saving.

That is a lot of work. Trying to ‘lie’ to yourself and make yourself believe it. No wonder you’re depressed.

However, if you believe your relationship really is worth a shot, because you and your partner are really loving, kind, and respectful to each other, the majority of the time, but a bad situation has made communicating difficult and put an enormous strain on your relationship. To save it and end the depression, You will need to figure out how the two of you can work together; to make it through whatever issue is straining your relationship.

No matter what it is you both have to remember that this is not the time to be at each other’s throats. Too often couples will turn on each other when what they should really be doing is leaning on each other and trying to work together as a team to make it through this rough time.

If you, or your partner, needs a whipping post you should take up boxing, but don’t take your frustrations out on each other.

The first step to overcoming relationship depression is to decide what the problem is. For example, the solution will be different if you are depressed over a bad breakup than it would be if your depression is caused by problems in your existing relationship. No matter which is the case, just make sure to enlist the help of a professional if you don’t seem to be making progress on your own. You deserve to be happy.