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You Can Find Love Right Now By Doing These Ten Things

1. Start by losing the losers

If you want to find your soul mate you must be available and not involved with people that aren’t right for you. Staying available is hard for a lot of singles, but necessary for finding the love of your life.

2. OK, available now? Next… are you “ready?”

Any unfinished business that might sabotage your next relationship? Legal, financial, emotional, kids, ex, employment? Get it handled!

3. Next, make a list of your top five “requirements”

Requirements are non-negotiable deal-breakers; what you must have or must not have in your relationship. Vow not to get involved with anyone that doesn’t meet all five. Share your list with your closest friends and make them swear to tell you the truth and lock you up if you get off-track.

4. Good job. Now, let’s get crystal clear about this “dating” thing:

If you want to avoid the deadly dating traps, focus on these Four Steps for Conscious Dating:

Step One: Scouting (find compatible people to meet- internet, through friends, getting out there, etc)

Step Two: Sorting (quickly determine if someone you meet has potential)

Step Three: Screening (collect enough information to know if your requirements would be met)

Step Four: Testing (date a few times and compare the reality with the information)

Repeat as needed.

That’s it… nothing more, nothing less. No “trial relationships,” no fun flings; just these four steps.

5. Get support

Don’t do this alone. Dating can be scary and isolating, and your friends and family can be your safety net to help you stay on track.

6. Work it!

Most people meet their soul mate through someone they already know, so let people know you’re looking and network like crazy.

7. Be positive and happy

Success breeds success and misery loves company… your choice.

8. Be the Chooser!

Go after what you want and don’t simply react to what or who chooses you.

9. Be assertive!

If you settle for less, you’ll get less. Ask for what you want and say “No” to what you don’t want.

10. Live a great life NOW while you’re single. “If you build it, they will come” (from the movie “Field of Dreams”).

Finding your perfect mate is a combination of working on yourself so that you’re ready to attract and keep this wonderful person, and being proactive in your life to go after what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you, or hoping it will just “happen.”

 

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Monday March 23, 2015 by Debbie

Surefire Techniques For Flirting

Common Flirting Signs Between Men And Women

How often have you felt like you didn’t know a thing about flirting?  When you meet someone appealing, you might not realize the importance of letting them know you are interested. For both men and women there are several things we just do – naturally when flirting.  Start behaving in a manner that makes it amply clear that we’re impulsively drawn towards that person.

So, if you find yourself getting attracted to someone and want to strike up a conversation with that individual, you better arm yourself with some techniques of flirting.

Being knowledgeable about some Common Flirting Signs between men and woman will help you to groom yourself to perfection so that you appear interesting to others. 

1. Touching Each Other Spontaneously

You may find yourself sub-consciously putting your hand over the hand of the person you’re talking with. Or, you’ll have the temptation of sitting real close so that your bodies touch. You’ll see yourself putting your arm across the shoulder of the individual. Lightly touching the forearm when sitting next to each other works miracles.

You may even fail to consciously notice that you had taken your partner’s hand in yours while you were crossing the street. You’ll surely find different ways of touching the other person for which you may not even need an excuse. Touching your new crush every now and then at the slightest pretext or provocation is a glaring sign of flirting.

2. Your Best Side is On Display

In this respect, we tend to closely resemble both the animals and the birds. Birds like peacocks and pheasants dance playfully around the female of the species by displaying their plumage. Animals like lions, elephants, jackals, and bears have their distinct ways of courting the females.

Similar is the case with human beings. Both men and women to make selves appear gorgeous and acceptable to each other, try to flaunt their superlative sides. You’ll see most women exploiting their physical features or their effeminate charm to woo men.

On the other hand, men bank on their masculinity to titillate and court women they find enthralling. As a man, you may often find yourself trying to chat up a good looking woman by trying to crack a joke or relating an engrossing anecdote. Since it’s still men who take the initiative of breaking the ice in the process of trying to start up a light banter, the onus of exploring different ways of doing the same also lies with them.

3. Personal Zones or Spaces are Invaded With Impunity

If someone takes a more than fleeting interest in you, he or she’d often intrude into your private space by asking you personal questions. By the same token, that person will not hesitate in sharing and discussing aspects about his or her personal life. He or she’ll try to warm up to you by whispering something which you might think is uncalled-for. These are more than obvious flirting signs and you don’t really need to read between the lines to make out that the person wants to get closer to you.

4. Eyes Will Twinkle and Gleam a Lot

If you find yourself falling for someone, your eyes will give it away. Conversely, if you’re conscious and vigilant enough, you’ll not fail to notice the glint or sparkle in the eyes of the person who finds you invigorating. Eyes becoming wide and expressive during small talks or lengthy conversations are a telltale sign of flirting between a guy and a girl.

5. All Peripheral or External Interruptions Are Kept At Bay

If somebody calls you up while you’re knee-deep in conversation with your object of desire, you’ll either disconnect the call or try to hang up as early as possible. You can expect the person who fancies you, to follow suit when he or she receives a call or an acquaintance walks up to him or her for exchanging pleasantries. Earnestly trying to avoid peripheral distractions is a sure enough sign that a guy or a girl wants to get on with his or her flirting ways.

6. You’ll Be Weighed Up and Down

If someone finds you really engrossing, then he or she’ll take his or her time to study you. You’ll see yourself being put under the scanner by the person. The person who feels attracted to you will take a good enough look at you and gauge you thoroughly before starting to flirt. Won’t you do pretty much the same while you try to get flirtatious with someone you’ve taken a fancy to?

7. You’ll Try to Flaunt Your Single Status

You’ll do your best to flaunt your single status to somebody you want to flirt with for the sake of winning a date from him or her. You’ll do your level best to make it sufficiently clear to the person that you’re not seeing anyone, and hence available for a date. In this context, an individual who has a crush on you will try to impress you by exhibiting their single label.

8. Blushing Periodically

Besides smiling and laughing occasionally during an engaging or flirtatious conversation, a lot of blushing also happens on the sidelines. How often have you noticed a girl going red in the face when you compliment her for her looks or her outfit? Blushing is a natural phenomenon that takes place impulsively when a guy or girl is at his or her seductive best.

9. The Guy is Overly Protective Whereas the Girl Happens to be Bashful

The inherent sexual attributes are on full display when you try to woo a guy or a girl. The innate sexual traits associated with both the sexes come into play when someone is attempting to engage in a flirtatious behaviour with you. The guy tries to show off his manliness by becoming overly protective and the girl will affect a more demure and reserved stance.       

10. You’re the Centre of Attraction

If you’re deeply engrossed in a conversation with the person who seems to have a weakness for you, he’ll or she’ll try to shift the entire focus of his or her attention to you. He or she’ll try to avoid everyone else present in the vicinity and shower all his or her attention on you. This person will get really excited when you’re around him or her or when show up unexpectedly even though you don’t happen to be his or her fast friend.

Try noticing  what other men and women do and start easing into Common Flirting Signs Between Men And Women –

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Sweet Things To Say To Your Boyfriend

Appreciate The Things Your Boyfriend Does

There are many sweet things to say to your boyfriend. Sometimes just saying something nice can pull him out of a funk. If you have had a fight, it’s worth coming up with something nice to say. It is amazing how much your boyfriend will turn towards you instead of pull away by remembering to praise the things he does right. This article will explore some of the sweet things to say to your boyfriend.

It’s just too easy to get caught up in the day to day aspects of life. Sometimes making a conscious effort to break the pattern and surprise him with something sweet can reignite the passion in your relationship. Appreciate the little things by telling him what he does right in the relationship – like sending a text to you, bringing you your favorite treat, etc.

But, remember that timing is important when you have sweet things to say to your boyfriend. For instance, saying them in front of his friends is likely to embarrass him or make him mad. Don’t try to wiggle out of a fight by saying sweet things either. This is the time to try to resolve issues not to cover them up with pleasantries. Besides guys don’t like drama and chaos so he won’t be in a place to hear the sweet things. You have to wait a while and give him time to cool off.

Think about the context of the words. For instance, saying sweet things when he is on the way out the door to a basketball game with his buddies may come across as a way to keep him home. But saying sweet things to say to your boyfriend during a romantic dinner may come across as loving. Pay attention to what is happening to him in the moment. Men tend to focus on one thing at a time. So take note of where he’s at and where his focus is at the time.

When coming up with sweet things to say to your boyfriend, keep in mind what will please him. This will vary from man to man. Therefore, I cannot make a list of 100 things that are pleasing. Instead, I can guide you in the kind of thought processes to go through.

For instance, you should consider his actions. If there are things he does that please you, complement him on them. Not only is this sweet, but it reinforces behaviors that you appreciate too.

You can also compliment him on his appearance. The perception is that gals need more complements on their looks, but guys appreciate this too!

Some of the sweet things to say to your boyfriend involve his skills. Is he a great cook or handy around the house? Let him know. Does he have great social skills? Do you admire his relationship with his family? These are all the basis for sweet comments.

If his personality is something that drew you to him, let him know. He may be insecure about being a “nice guy” so your reassurances that his personality is great will help him a lot.

Of course, there are plenty of great things to say about his sexuality. Even if you haven’t gone to bed with him, you can always compliment him on his kissing. But, if you have gone all the way, think about making him feel like a real stud.

There are many sweet things to say to your boyfriend. Come up with the right words and the right time and you’ll be his for life.

Are You A Girl That Believes In The Rules?

40 Dating Tips I Gathered After Reading Ellen Fein’s The Rules

 Are The Rules Right For You?

By MADDISON JENSEN 

This book — The Rules — was what the movie, He’s Just Not That Into You was based on. The term “You are not the exception” is referring to The Rules. Historical evidence and references are explained in depth in the pages of this dating bible. It’s an interesting read, even if you don’t agree completely.

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The Rules 40 Dating Tips:

1. Take care of yourself! Be feminine. Smell Good.

2. Make him approach you.

3. Be a Responder, not a Hunter. Hunters are men. You are not a man.

4. Never be offended. You love your flaws. You love yourself. Nothing you do is stupid. Smile and laugh.

5. Hunters don’t hunt animals that chase them or wait for them. They hunt unique animals that are hard to find, even if they have to travel to catch them.

6. Don’t call back immediately. You are a girl in demand.

7. Don’t call first. You might catch him when he’s busy and then you’ll feel bad and dumb.

8. End call first after 15 minutes ALWAYS. (Even though it sucks. He will call you more.)

9. End the date first.

10. Don’t reveal too much. Once books are open, they end up closed.

11. Be supportive and sympathetic

12. Don’t date people who are already dating people.

13. Be awesome. You’ve never been sad. You never want to be sad. Sad people are Sad. Happy people are contagious.

14. If his gifts aren’t romantic, his feelings aren’t romantic. You are not a tool set. You are a teddy bear and chocolates and everything sweet that he is feeling.

15. Refrain from seeing more than 2-3 times a week

16. Only casual kissing on the first date

17. Be busy until the moment he picks you up, that way you won’t over think things. Just be busy all the time. Busy people are important. You want to be important.

18. Even if you are not busy, pretend like you are. (This is not lying.)

19. Only tell your therapist or your dog everything about them. Don’t talk about them all the time. Words get around. You don’t want to sound crazy.

20. Seriously don’t have sex. When it comes to intimacy, stand your ground. They will respect you.

21. If bad things happen, stay emotionally cool. Don’t talk about the future. EVER. The future ball is in his court to bring up.

22. Don’t be bossy. Let him be a man. Bossy can come off as jealous or insecure.

23. Guys have balls. You don’t. Don’t let the ball be in your court. The ball should always be in his court. He knows what to do with his balls. Give him his balls.

24. Literally act like his life is totally fine and you don’t care to change it even if he’s wearing cargo shorts.

25. Always have something to do. Never act bored. Bored people are boring.

26. Feelings are heavy and nobody wants those so shut up and suck it up.

27. You are the happiest, calmest person alive. Nothing can get in your way. Your life is so great that he wants to put himself in it, and he will.

28. Sometimes it is better to be lonely than rejected. Even then, you have netflix.

29. You are unlike anyone else. You don’t waste time. You don’t take shit from people. Shit is gross.

30. Past relationships are in your rearview mirror. Your future is through your windshield. Your windshield is bigger for a reason.

31. The person who talks the most has the most to lose.

32. Sympathy is stupid so stop trying to get it.

33. There is a reason why liars are lonely. Don’t be one in a relationship.

34. Busy is just “Busy”– don’t explain. Be happy and aloof when explaining that you are busy for the night.

35. Don’t leave things at his apartment. Make him make up excuses to see you. If he doesn’t… He doesn’t want to see you. If he doesn’t want to see you… you were too busy to notice or care (even if you do care).

36. His friends are the last people for you to seek advice from. Do not devalue your intuition and confidence by asking questions that make you look insecure NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE.

37. Relationship ratio should always be him 70% and you 30-50%.

38. Eventually you will have to tell him everything about you, but don’t dump it on him like you’re nailing down his coffin. Let him understand that the weight of your past is something you carry lightly.

39. Keep yourself busy and happy. This isn’t just a tip to make people love you, this is a tip to keep you moving forward in life.

40. Stay fit, stay beautiful, and show him and yourself that you care about being healthy.

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Creative Boyfriend Gifts – Unexpected Gifts He Will Love

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Gifts Guys Love

Are you in a dilemma about what gift to get your boyfriend?  Don’t want to be over the top or too mushy? When giving gifts to those we love, we all want to give items they will enjoy and be surprised to receive. No one wants to give a gift the other person doesn’t want or something bland which they predicted they would receive or worse yet that they just throw in a drawer and forget about.

The following tips will help you find creative boyfriend gifts.

One thoughtful and creative boyfriend gift is a charm he can carry in his pocket to remember you each day. Men are unlike woman in that they do not like to wear necklaces with moments of the ones they love. By having a charm engraved with your names and a significant date that he can carry in his pocket you have given him the male equivalent of a female charm necklace. He will think of you each time he gets anything out of his packet during the day and he will be reminded of your love.

An inventive and creative boyfriend gift is having copies of the photos of the two of you cut into the letters of your names. Have the photo letters places in a frame to spell your names with a photo of the two of you in the shape of heart set between your names. This is a great way for him to enjoy photos of you together. Keeps him remembering the fun you have and how spontaneous you can be.

If your boyfriend is into vintage items then you want to consider getting him a vintage cigarette or card case and flask with his name engraved on it. This is a very classy boyfriend gift which he will enjoy well beyond the day you give them to him. You can really give a creative boyfriend gift with this idea.

You can make a memorable and creative boyfriend gift by making a special video for him. Film you, friends, and family members telling stories and sharing memories about the two of you. This is a special and you can make this one a unique, creative boyfriend gift which will be cherished each time he watches it.

Make going to the movies a special  date – creative boyfriend gift. Go to your local movie theater and ask if they sell ads which are shown before the film begins. If they do, you can purchase an ad and have it played on an evening you are taking him to see a movie together. The ad can have a picture of the two of you and saying a simple sweet message. Not only will he be surprised to see the ad, he will be touched by how thoughtful you are.

If you are looking to really impress your boyfriend one of the most impressive and creative boyfriend gifts is a new car stereo system or satellite radio. Tell your boyfriend you are taking his car to have it washed. Instead, take it have a high end car stereo or satellite radio installed into it. This is gift which will put a smile on his face each time he gets in hos car and thinks of you and this thoughtful gift. You could also put all of his favorite music on an iPod or Google Tablet or mp3 file which would not only be thoughtful but also be another creative boyfriend gift too!

With a little work you can give creative boyfriend gift which he will really enjoy.

 

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