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You Can Find Love Right Now By Doing These Ten Things

1. Start by losing the losers

If you want to find your soul mate you must be available and not involved with people that aren’t right for you. Staying available is hard for a lot of singles, but necessary for finding the love of your life.

2. OK, available now? Next… are you “ready?”

Any unfinished business that might sabotage your next relationship? Legal, financial, emotional, kids, ex, employment? Get it handled!

3. Next, make a list of your top five “requirements”

Requirements are non-negotiable deal-breakers; what you must have or must not have in your relationship. Vow not to get involved with anyone that doesn’t meet all five. Share your list with your closest friends and make them swear to tell you the truth and lock you up if you get off-track.

4. Good job. Now, let’s get crystal clear about this “dating” thing:

If you want to avoid the deadly dating traps, focus on these Four Steps for Conscious Dating:

Step One: Scouting (find compatible people to meet- internet, through friends, getting out there, etc)

Step Two: Sorting (quickly determine if someone you meet has potential)

Step Three: Screening (collect enough information to know if your requirements would be met)

Step Four: Testing (date a few times and compare the reality with the information)

Repeat as needed.

That’s it… nothing more, nothing less. No “trial relationships,” no fun flings; just these four steps.

5. Get support

Don’t do this alone. Dating can be scary and isolating, and your friends and family can be your safety net to help you stay on track.

6. Work it!

Most people meet their soul mate through someone they already know, so let people know you’re looking and network like crazy.

7. Be positive and happy

Success breeds success and misery loves company… your choice.

8. Be the Chooser!

Go after what you want and don’t simply react to what or who chooses you.

9. Be assertive!

If you settle for less, you’ll get less. Ask for what you want and say “No” to what you don’t want.

10. Live a great life NOW while you’re single. “If you build it, they will come” (from the movie “Field of Dreams”).

Finding your perfect mate is a combination of working on yourself so that you’re ready to attract and keep this wonderful person, and being proactive in your life to go after what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you, or hoping it will just “happen.”

 

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Thursday May 26, 2011 by Debbie

Pack Lots of Fun Into Your Relationship

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Make Time For Fun and Romance In Your Relationship

 

 10 Ways To Bring More Fun Into Your Relationship

Relationships are exciting and spontaneous in the beginning. You are learning about each other, meeting each other’s friends and family, and dicovering more and more about each other. With most long-term relationships, there are going to be periods of time where it feels as if your are not moving closer or to the next level in your relationship.  The most important thing is to be aware of the inevitable lulls or moments of doubt, and to make a plan to counteract them. Just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean you can’t still have fun being in the relationship.

Of course, the key ingredient to any satisfying relationship is to be in love and that love is something that needs to grow and experience creating great memories together. Here are 10 ways to bring more fun into your relationship for even the most trying times.

10. Socialize With Other Couples – Throw parties and get togethers

One of the biggest mistakes that a couple can make is to spend every second with just each other. By just throwing a party and inviting both of your groups of friends over, not only will you be introducing some of your friends and other couples, but you’ll also have an opportunity to be around each other without being attached to one another; this is a great way to keep a long-term relationship interesting. You can play some poker with  the guys while she entertains her friends, or you can spend your time entertaining and socializing with some couples. Either way it will be enriching, exciting and most of all, fun.

9. Don’t get in a rut – Visit someplace new, keep a sense of adventure in your relationship

If you end up going to the same restaurants all the time, watching the same tv shows, getting too predictable, you’ll inevitably be spending a lot of time retreading the same ground. By going to a new city, a new beach or a new hotel, you’ll be opening up a wide range of new conversations and new experiences. It’s a great way to keep a long-term relationship interesting.

It’s wonderfully revitalising for any relationship to be put in a situation where you’re on equal footing, both unaware of how exactly this new place operates. And when it’s time to go back to the hotel room, new place – at the end of the day, you’ll be able to enliven your love life on an entirely different way.

8. Spend some time apart

This is one of the hardest things to do if you’re in a long-term relationship with someone you truly care about. When you love someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible, but it’s important to not only have some space, but to also spend a night apart every once in a while as well.

Being apart not only allows you some freedom, but it will also make both of you miss each other a little bit and is an ideal way to keep a long-term relationship interesting. Sometimes your job requires attending a conference or overnight trip. You can catch up with friends and family. Go on a camping trip or Girls weekend – you may even take a night to visit a friend out of town, or you she may spend the weekend at her parent’s. These times apart actually increase your interest in each other. There are new things you can share and appreciate about each other at the same time.

7. Give thoughtful and sentimental gifts

Giving a gift to someone not only lets them know you love them, but also that you’ve been thinking of them when they weren’t around. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant or pricey, it just has to be something from the heart that your partner would really enjoy. Think outside of the box – something as thoughtful as a favorite ice cream, flower, sentmental card or note. Even if they tell you that it’s unnecessary and not to buy it, it is more important to the future health of your relationship and a great way to keep a long-term relationship interesting.

6. Make time to see each other during the day

More hours are spents at work than the time you actually get to share together (sleeping doesn’t count). Every once in a while stop by to take each other out for lunch or just stop by to say hello. It’s the same reasoning behind giving gifts; it’s a reminder to both of you that you were thinking of each other. However, the difference with this way to keep a long-term relationship interesting is that not only were you showing that even during the day, the relationship is a priority, but  it keeps the romance alive.

5. Go on dates

Just because you’ve been dating a while doesn’t mean you should stop dating. And a date doesn’t mean you take have dinner togetherat that local Mexican place you always go to. Instead, do some planning and make a reservation someplace affordable, but romantic. Open the door for her, order some wine and dessert and hold her hand if she wants to. Make it a regular thing, weekly or bi-weekly depending on your budget and schedules. Cook his favorite meal. It might seem like a lot of work, but it’ll make your relationship stronger and healthier in the long run.

4. Set goals together

Couples that make it – create a shared vision together. They discuss where they are headed. This is a great way to reinvigorate not only your long-term relationship, but your goals. Sit down with your partner and decide where you want to be in the long-term — careers, moving in, marriage, house, kids, jobs, retiring, etc. — and how to get there. Ask each other for advice about how best to accomplish those goals and once they are accomplished, don’t just stop there, set new goals: health, comfort, happiness, redecorating, travel, dreams, personal growth, and so on. There are always ways to better yourself and your relationship, and it’s better to do it together than separately.

3. Keep the passion alive

Passion is kept alive in may ways. There’s always something that keeps each other interested. Sending a flirty suggestive text, sating something firey , and spicing things up. aven’t tried. Let’s face it, if you’ve been with someone for a long time, it inevitably can get a little monotonous and predictable. However, if you really want to give your long-term relationship staying power, give a little extra effort into  breaking the comfort level by treating each other as lovers perhaps meeting at a hotel and have a passionate rendevoux. Keep the mystery alive.

2. Add a new dimension to your relationship

Volunteer together, fight for a cause you both believe in, get involved in local politics, become a big brother – big sister, enter a 5 K , golf tournament, co-ed sports team, any one of these options will bring a new dimension to the two of you.  Get a puppy or cat -there is nothing that will bond a couple quite like having something to care for together, something that is more important than each other that both of you can care for and love. This will even help you prepare for the day you make the decision together to have a child.

1. Discover things together

In the end, the best way to keep a long-term relationship interesting is the easiest thing you can do: Add that element of “new” to your life and your long-term relationship. Take a cooking class together, do yoga with each other or take dancing lessons. Take time to visit a new museum once in a while. The bottom line is that you want to be with each other, but it’s always better to have something in common that you can discuss together. Finding someone you actually want to talk to and share yourself with creates closeness and connection.  And always search for something new to share and keep that initial feeling alive for the years ahead.

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There Is A Guy Out There Who Is Looking For Someone Just Like You

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Believe this for I know it is true.

I’ve worked with hundreds of incredible women in my career. The funny thing is a lot of them seem to think that if you’re attractive and female, you simply blend in with all the other attractive women out there. They imagine that men find all smart, attractive women to be interchangeable. It’s almost as if women aren’t giving men enough credit to know the difference!

I’m here to tell you men are much deeper, romantic, intuitive, have feelings and emotions they don’t show, and are smarter than you might think. The man you want and need is going to be looking for someone just like you.

If you’re in your 30s, 40s 50s or 60s and you’re “available”, then why haven’t found the man that’s right for you? Is it fair to say that you might be the one looking in the wrong direction, and therefore attracting the men that aren’t looking for you? Your age? Your look? Your personality? Are you perhaps looking to men who aren’t relationship ready – unavailable – and who don’t know what they want? It’s a lot to think about.

When I was single, I intentionally put my blinders on when it came to other women, and only focused on what I personally had to offer a man. I knew that my guy would be looking for what I brought to the table, and I never relied on my external appearance to attract a man. My advice is for you to do the same. We are all unique women. When it comes to finding your Mr. Right, you will be perfect for each other because of your shared values, goals, chemistry and personality. He will be drawn to you. He won’t resist.

This is for everyone reading this: what makes you unique and lovable? What qualities and traits do you have? What have others noticed and complimented you for? Write it in a journal or put it on a sticky note and keep it where you can remind yourself.

Why should a man choose you over someone else? It’s vital to your relationship success that you have a full understanding of where your romantic value lies. Stop worrying about other women. Just shine in your own spotlight. He will notice you. I promise!

 

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Broken Relationships Rebound The Smart Way

 Rebound Love After A BreakupShould You Fall In Love On The Rebound?

How many times have you seen one of your friends break up with a long-term partner only to find, the very next week, rebound with someone who was obviously all wrong for them? It’s one of the most common after effects of the end of relationships: rebound dating.

The idea of rebound relationships is so ingrained into the way we think about dating that it just seems natural to look for one after a breakup. There’s something to be said for getting “back in the saddle,” choosing a partner when your judgment is clouded usually does more harm than good overall. If you want to get over your ex fast, there are better ways to do it.

Band-Aid relationships: rebound mindset

The first step to keeping yourself from doing something you’ll regret is to take an honest look at what you’re feeling and understand how those feelings can lead you places you’d rather not go. A lot of times we just miss the companionship and look for someone to fill the gap in our schedule and distract us from the fact that our heart’s just been broken. In that case, make a point of finding a social time-filler that doesn’t involve romance.

 

Maintain your standards

 

The best thing you can do to avoid getting involved with someone who’s all wrong for you is stick to your standards. In fact, go ahead and raise them a little just to add a safety buffer. If the person you’re thinking about dating is less kind, less intelligent, less anything that you’d normally want, stay away. The people don’t make for good relationships, rebound or otherwise.

 

Beware of the handiest person

 

When we look for someone to rebound with, we need someone fast. We don’t have time to “waste” looking for someone we really click with, so we tend to latch on to someone we already know and have at least some rapport with. It might be a close friend, a co-worker, even someone who works at the grocery store down the street. If you find yourself falling for someone you’ve never been the least bit attracted to before, stop and think about what’s really going on here.

Take time for yourself

Instead of filling your time with go-nowhere dates, get out and make some new friends (that’s “friends,” not “lovers.” There’s a difference.) Get involved in something you’ve always wanted to do but never had time for. Whatever you do, don’t sit around pining for your ex or scouring the bookstore shelves for self help books.

Be gentle with yourself.

Even if your not sobbing into your pillow every night, the end of a relationship will naturally make you feel a little bummed out and low on energy. Take that into account and try not to start any major projects for a few weeks. Instead, treat yourself to some time out to do something you enjoy.

Of course, not every rebound relationship ends up a disaster. If you’re lucky, you’ll have a fun fling. If you do decide to get involved with someone after a breakup, though, make sure you’ve taken a little off by yourself and you’re not lowering your standards. While we can prevent broken relationships: rebound dates gone wrong are easy to avoid.

 

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Dating Tip – Don’t Text Too Soon

Don’t Rush Into Texting After The First Date

Don't Text Too Soon

Dating Tip: Once you go on a first date, you start to build the connection if you feel the two of you clicked. First impressions are usually correct. Don’t just pay attention to the physical attraction and chemistry you feel or don’t feel. That alone won’t help you make the best decision about who he is. You will feel that you need to communicate after the first date especially if you don’t hear from him. Dating Tip – Don’t Text Too Soon. It’s great to show gratitude for having a good time but don’t text too soon.

You don’t want to come across as needy or desperate. So slow down and resist the temptation to text right away. It will also lead to lowering your confidence. You see, you will have your hopes up that he will reply right away. There is an expectation that you want more than the place where the relationship stands at this moment.

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